My family and I had a ball New Years Eve. We decided to do something we have never done, and unheard of as parent with younger kids. We decided to weather the storm, overlook the perceived risks, and go to Manhattan to see the ball drop! My wife had this dream on her bucket list (She is healthy and OK, just a list she has) and we were able to help her check this goal off of the list. There are many places I could have been that night. Lots of offers and possibilities. With all that was offered, the most important place to be that night was with my family, having fun, and helping my wife check that one goal off of her list. It was not about me that night. It was not about going to an event so that I could network with community and business movers and shakers. It was not about planning a new seminar, or developing strategy for increased business. It was about taking time with my wife and kids–period. We decided to park the car and ride on trains, crowded subways and everything else to get there. Have conversations with people who were equally excited about the New Year, sit in a restaurant for a few hours (to avoid the freezing cold) and many other things. It was a memorable night for my household and me.
I forgot to mention something on the initial section of this article. This lifestyle for my family is the rule, not the exception. We do a lot of individual things as well, not always as a group. We have multiple activities that we partake in regularly. Professionally, I work hard as a speaker, coach, trainer, and strategist to help my customers achieve their goals. Many late hours conducting meetings, speaking on the phone, webinars, seminars, etc., yet I also find time to help coach my son’s football team attend my daughter’s dance events, go to workout at my wife’s Zumba Studio, etc. Yes, I am like many people and miss things from time to time, but I make it a priority to take time out of my world and step into theirs. Time to have fun, laugh, attend events, and something that many struggle with–do things that my family wants to do that are way outside of my box. There are deep concerns about traveling in a subway at 1:30 in the morning in Manhattan after the ball celebration but guess what? We did it, had a ball and now have a lifetime memory!
Diverting for a few moments I recently attended homecoming at my University. We are 4 years away from my 30th year of graduation! Time is flying. It was good to see many of my classmates, teammates, etc. Ran into a few school leaders as well. One statement I heard and question I received over and over again was as follows:
- You have not aged at all!
- How come all of us have gray hair and you don’t?
Don’t take was I am saying a self-focused but I honestly was told and asked this time and time again. BY the way, I have never used die on my hair.J My response was simply:
“I have balance. Balance in life, work, family, faith, food and every aspect of my life.”
I have been sold on balance for years. I sincerely believe this has an effect on your health and vitality. I have a good relationship with my customers (many have become very good friends) but I also have a super relationship with my wife and children. I travel often, but I make sure to call home often when I am gone. I ask my kids about their lives when I am not there. I communicate with my wife and do my best to make sure she is OK in my absence. I also purposely get involved with all of their activities. Even If I am not there, I can face time, call, or do something to make sure I am a part of their lives. I like sports life Golf, I workout regularly, but I do not spend every weekend on the Golf Course. This means that I am focusing on myself only and that can bring imbalance. Just like overindulgence in anything else can.
Please keep in mind that balance is not just for your family and friends, it is for you! People with balance live better and healthier lives. Stress levels are minimized, and Doctor’s visits have more positive results. They smile more, laugh more and are not as tense. If you feel like you are out of balance, it is time to calibrate. It’s time for you to:
- Purposely find ways to spend more time with family and friends.
- Volunteer time to help others.
- Plan this out to assure you follow through.
I sincerely hope that you understand the power in life-career balance. Your health, longevity and vitality are connected to it. Leaving you with a biblical scripture “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?” This can pertain to a woman as well:-)
Here’s to a year of career and life success! Lets get it right this year. Become balanced!